Fear is the Mother of Morality F. Nietzsche
Why do we love the things that are bad for us? I’ve often found myself bound in fetters where I’ve been doing the greatest injustices to myself and self inflicted pain has been the “cause of death” or near “death” experiences. However, the more interesting question would be: why is it that most of us who try to live circumspectly, who are organized and strive to be consistent end up loving these bad inconsistent things that lead to self infliction?
Renowned philosophers in the world of academia spent all their time talking about one thing, the consequences of these things and how man should or could live because of it. This thing is what we call the “social contract.” Just like this contract, every contract has some things in common and today I will attempt to highlight these similarities that may be the key to answering some of these mind- boggling issues.
First of all, why in the world would we make ourselves bound to something or someone? Furthermore why is it that the social contract, the institution of marriage, three year phone agreements and even unwritten ones between two people are so socially accepted? Now, I may seem to have all the answers but I implore you to sit and think it over today.
In my perspective one reason why society holds on to and praises these contracts is because of FEAR and as humans our priority is to survive—to protect ourselves in an insecure world. One wise person once told me that as humans two emotions propel our actions: fear and love. What is important to note however is that whether a contract is entered in based on love or fear changes the consequences and or duration of the contract.
Furthermore, those who are the most organized and circumspect in this world are most likely the ones who are most afraid to face mistakes and the consequences they bring. Because they are afraid they tend to enter into many contracts that assure them that there will be stability and security. However, in a world of uncertainties and instability no matter how many contracts they enter into, they never find peace of mind or a static life. Instead, they live miserable lives filled with depression, fear and worry; these worriers live in shackles.
One of my favourite quotes is: don’t forget to live while preparing for tomorrow and don’t forget tomorrow while preparing for today. Yes you need to think ahead but enjoying the moment is just as important. To my worriers, insecure, overly organized people who would do anything for security: relax and live. After all, you will learn so much more be open to so much more if you let go of your fears and live, the fortified walls you built in your life can be destroyed by life itself!
For my secure, over confident and disorganized folks: tomorrow is not promised but that does not mean that preparation is not imperative; you attain so much from life when you prepare. Furthermore, I’ve realized that sometimes spontaneity requires preparation…think about it.
There are so many differences between love and fear and the consequences they bring vary… but LOVE...it conquers all….
Speak and accept the truth in love.
