Fear is the Mother of Morality F. Nietzsche
Why do we love the things that are bad for us? I’ve often found myself bound in fetters where I’ve been doing the greatest injustices to myself and self inflicted pain has been the “cause of death” or near “death” experiences. However, the more interesting question would be: why is it that most of us who try to live circumspectly, who are organized and strive to be consistent end up loving these bad inconsistent things that lead to self infliction?
Renowned philosophers in the world of academia spent all their time talking about one thing, the consequences of these things and how man should or could live because of it. This thing is what we call the “social contract.” Just like this contract, every contract has some things in common and today I will attempt to highlight these similarities that may be the key to answering some of these mind- boggling issues.
First of all, why in the world would we make ourselves bound to something or someone? Furthermore why is it that the social contract, the institution of marriage, three year phone agreements and even unwritten ones between two people are so socially accepted? Now, I may seem to have all the answers but I implore you to sit and think it over today.
In my perspective one reason why society holds on to and praises these contracts is because of FEAR and as humans our priority is to survive—to protect ourselves in an insecure world. One wise person once told me that as humans two emotions propel our actions: fear and love. What is important to note however is that whether a contract is entered in based on love or fear changes the consequences and or duration of the contract.
Furthermore, those who are the most organized and circumspect in this world are most likely the ones who are most afraid to face mistakes and the consequences they bring. Because they are afraid they tend to enter into many contracts that assure them that there will be stability and security. However, in a world of uncertainties and instability no matter how many contracts they enter into, they never find peace of mind or a static life. Instead, they live miserable lives filled with depression, fear and worry; these worriers live in shackles.
One of my favourite quotes is: don’t forget to live while preparing for tomorrow and don’t forget tomorrow while preparing for today. Yes you need to think ahead but enjoying the moment is just as important. To my worriers, insecure, overly organized people who would do anything for security: relax and live. After all, you will learn so much more be open to so much more if you let go of your fears and live, the fortified walls you built in your life can be destroyed by life itself!
For my secure, over confident and disorganized folks: tomorrow is not promised but that does not mean that preparation is not imperative; you attain so much from life when you prepare. Furthermore, I’ve realized that sometimes spontaneity requires preparation…think about it.
There are so many differences between love and fear and the consequences they bring vary… but LOVE...it conquers all….
Speak and accept the truth in love.
BTW it is Kerryanne...and that is blogspot name..check it out some time....
ReplyDeletethis is an interesting topic...FEAR keeps us in order...my mom always say man ah plan and God ah wipe out...i know it sounds bad... but it shows that we plan plan plan out of fear but we cant control our destiny because their is a higher order in plan...as humans I dont think we have come to terms with our lack of control over many aspects in our life. Even though we have free will...God ultimately is always teaching us lessons...so we must live and apart of life is fear and the unknown in which we cant plan for...so basically all we can do is use our lessons to prepare us for today and tomorrow...but fear is natural but stagnation is a problem. wait is stagnation a word? lol and I am going to law school...haha but it is a word...haha I am silly
LOLLLL stagnation is a word!!! lmao. and by the way i know you are going to law school...im still thinking if i should.
ReplyDeleteyour mom is right....we can plan but if it's not God's will it will never come into existence.
fear keeps us controlled...just like Machiavelli said...the King is the king because he is feared by the ppl...and as a king it's better to be feared than love...
but is this how we should live and have personal relationships? should we stay in relationships with people we fear? furthermore, should we even enter into marriage because we are afraid to be lonely? i think not....
just soooo much to think about.
MISS U KERRI!
Hmm...Fear and Love...the joy of Four letter words...They are so simple and easy to spell, but their meaning is so complex. I think that is the same as Life. Another four letter word...(omg, 4 has four letters!!!) Anyways, I am one of those people who always wants to know what is going to happen next. But Jem you are right. We spend so much of our time planning for the future, and the reason that sucks is because we live our present in preparation for a future that is uncertain. So in the end, did all that preparation go to waste? What if we just lived our lives without thinking about the consequences of our actions on our "future". Do you think we would still we would still have regrets. Would people say, "I wish I took that course"...".I would have been..."Maybe if we all lived everyday as if it were our last, we would live both width and the length of our life. Witch I presume would make the journey more interesting.
ReplyDeleteOf course, well done!