The bible says in Hosea 4:6 that God’s people will perish for lack of knowledge. Yes, Jesus was talking about his church but this can also be seen daily while we journey through life. However, my question is do you perish when you have the knowledge but you lack wisdom? I know some of you are thinking at this very moment how could that even be possible; knowledge and wisdom go together.
However, one day a very wise person told me that "knowledge without wisdom is ever present in our day and age and we know it’s there because humanity has so many ways of pointing to the problems but lack a practical solution." With that said, today I want to talk about this very same notion except we’re not talking about rocket science, geology or physics, today I want to talk about the possibility of your body languishing because of blindness in your relationship. Furthermore, I want to talk about how you can risk the chance of “perishing” when you have all the causes but no solution—knowledge without wisdom.
Have you ever been in a relationship that is forbidden by your family or close friends; a relationship where people make known to you all the flaws of the person you look to for help, strength and love and you just don’t seem to see what everyone else is seeing? Instead, your emotions have led you to overlook their imperfections and just love the person that you think they are. Then come the boldness—when confronted with striking news and evidence, your love for that person makes you a brazen defender for him or her and you are ready to attack any person who says a bad word about that person you love so dearly. Evidently, your blindness has hindered you from gaining knowledge and your “death” awaits you around the corner.
Have you ever been in a relationship that you were not in denial about; you were once blind but life has led you to a place with a loved one where you know that he or she is not a positive influence in your life? Have you ever been so deep in love with a person that you know you are not supposed to be with? Has the pity and self –sacrificing type of love ever overwhelmed your life that you were unable to free yourself from a burden or a parasite? You want to leave, you have to leave but you don’t know how to leave? It is clear here that you have knowledge and no wisdom.
These cases seem too familiar to me and I’m sure you can relate to one of these or both of these. The real question however is not if you’ve been there and done that but how do you protect yourself from such detrimental situations? How do we love and still be aware of what stands right in front of our faces? How do we love without pity and do what’s best for us?
These situations involve two main elements that affect our existence: the heart and the mind. In cases like the first situation it is clear as day that this individual has allowed emotions (the heart) to control her. I see “blindness” connected to the nervous system of which the mind is connected to. Blindness is therefore a reflection of some problem within this system; and this is the same problem in relationships! When you are blindly in love it’s because you are not using your mind, you have allowed emotions to hinder the proper functioning of your “central nervous system”.
Furthermore, in case two it is clear that both heart and mind are involved yet the heart is still the element that has most control of the individual's actions! It is evident now that the solution in both cases is finding equilibrium. A balance in decision making between the heart and mind is essential in relationships. If we love blindly or allow emotions to have more precedence than the mind we are in for a lot hurt and pain. How do we find that balance (finding the solution to the solution) is where I’m at now and hopefully that too will come!
Finally, we must realize that “death” will come eventually, no matter what we do; however, living life and enjoying relationships to the fullest depends on how well we make decisions. Pain is inevitable when we love. However, "death" and suffering is not necessary and making “balanced” decisions by using both our mind and heart will prevent us from having an early “death” or having to suffer for years. YES! This is only half of the solution but I pray that as you apply this to your life and relationships you find part two on you own.
Speak the truth and accept the truth in love.
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